The first time I felt emotional pain from a relationship was in the 4th grade when I lost the love of my life…at least it felt that way. It was not the last time I would feel this type of pain, and it never got easier. As a teenager and young adult, emotional pain disrupted my life terribly, and as a father and husband, I still can not properly function while I am in emotional pain.
At first, I tried to find some way to eliminate this pain, but that did not work. What does work is to accept that pain is a normal part of life and discover effective ways of moving with the pain, even learning from it. Without this ability, we spend more time than necessary in suffering and distress, and we lose a significant portion of what life has to offer.
People should feel safe as they go through life, and see a purpose in learning and discovering what life and pain have to offer. When I read other articles or meet people that are helpful in this area, I love to share that with you. Phil Petachenko is a great friend and writes many good articles about this topic. Recently he wrote an article titled “Moving Forward When We’re In Reaction.” If you like the article, you can read much more by visiting this page on Phil’s site.