I was proud of my little family of four. Divorced or not we had beautiful young boys, and I felt on top of the world. Then suddenly my ex-wife needed to go to the bathroom.
It occurs to me that divorce usually gets thought of as the time between one deciding to get divorced and a marital settlement agreement. But I think the most challenging part is after the divorce, the years spent with child custody and trying to find another mate and all that. We do not have support for that stage because there is no money in it. No need for a divorce attorney or mediator, and no reason to waste money on therapy because the raw truth is there is no more to do about it than about the pain one gets after breaking a limb. You have to tough it out as it were. That sucks. Continue reading “After Divorce”
Once I realized that my anger was a feeling of pain I could start to see it was the way that I called out for love, for connection, for validation.
Emotions are signals from our brain to take action. They are the highlighter of our mind. Emotions emphasize important points and underline what the mind feels is vital for us. Because they engage the body too, emotions leave the mind as energy. That energy must physically move, maybe to get out of the way of an object, perhaps to defend ourselves, and possibly to cry or physically express yourself in some other way. Continue reading “Emotions”
Divorce is a negotiation. There are no black and white answers.
Could anything be worse than a stock market crash? Yes, divorce. Divorce is where we lose control and become misunderstood. It is also the place that will define who we are for the rest of our lives. Continue reading “Divorce”
So hard to live in the moment when there is so much we need to do. But is there really? Yes. Yes there is.
Remember when you were a kid and all you thought about was whatever it was you were doing? There were no jobs to worry about, no children to take care of, no idea of what was needed to make us “successful.” Heck, we did not even think about what it took to be happy. We just were! Continue reading “Be A Kid Again”
No matter how much awareness we have, we just have to prove who is right and who is wrong.
Relationships! What do they mean to you and how do you manage them? When you think about it relationships are the most crucial part of our life – without relationships, we do not have the quality of life we want and need. From the most basic biological point of view, you need to find someone and reproduce, otherwise, you are unnecessary. We develop from there. Continue reading “Relationships”