The Importance of Compassion

The COVID pandemic created a lot of feelings for most of us. During the past years there have been many important issues that were too quickly “resolved” by public opinion or political decision. And then the war in Ukraine.

This is not the first time society has had to deal with distress and disaster. Humans have survived famine, drought, war, and other hardships since the beginning of time. These are the things that cause reflection, thought, and evolution. It is not pleasant but maybe if we can see purpose that will help.

Over the past years I have had many opinions about the events of our time, but have held off writing them publicly because that is not the purpose of this blog. Forming opinions and hopping onto one or the other side of complex matters would cause division and assign right or wrong to any particular issue or point of view. This blog is meant to explore ways of honoring all beliefs and points of view.

Society must make difficult choices and decisions, this cannot be escaped. These choices and decisions should get made compassionately and carefully, and without creating more division than necessary, or by presuming there is an absolute right or wrong perspective. Managing societies is very complex and requires amazing leaders and leadership, perhaps we can do better in this regard.

So, how do I communicate something helpful about all this? I have to start by learning enough about what I truly feel, not from my fear of catching COVID or my beliefs that no war is good war, or my viewpoint on vaccines after educating myself, but from my heart, from my desire to love all people and to live and let live. This means I have to see life through the eyes of as many others as I reasonably can, and then step carefully into a position that honors those perspectives equally to my own.

The past few years have been extremely hard because important information seemed to be filled with distrust, tribalism, and black and white positions that divided people and caused more hatred and separation. This disappointed me more than I could have imagined. My life’s passion has been exactly about this point, on all things but particularly when it comes to God and “Truth”. Why should God be dismissed simply because people have been told who and what God is? Why should there have to be any one or two or any other number of definitions for God. Why should humans be led to believe there are truths or answers on any number of complex matters?

Perhaps my perspective is the same as yours, or not, but I hope to express myself in a loving, compassionate way that includes you and your perspective. I want to rest firmly in a place of consciousness and thought that includes every other human beings perspective, and refrain from making any of them (or anything) wrong or right.

This does not mean society should not choose a path or way to move forward. This only means choosing the way forward should not pit us against one another, and instead seek to find the path best suited to the largest number of people. And remind all of us to be compassionate and loving above all else.

Let Freedom Ring – The Threat of Losing Free Speech

It became clear to me while listening to a podcast that the deeper issue today is about freedom, and not the COVID pandemic. The podcast discussion centered on compelling people to take a vaccine, whether that be for COVID or to fulfill childhood schedules. The host offered the suggestion that it was reasonable for some people to decline the COVID vaccine due to personal medical freedom and the guest, a pediatric medical doctor, strongly disagreed and insisted that freedom did not extend to medical choices about vaccines. Because the focus of the discussion was around young children and the COVID vaccines, and because I have a six-year old daughter, this shocked me. Not because I am anti-vaccines, but because the COVID vaccines have known side effects and the danger of extreme COVID in children is rare. Both my wife and I are completely against our six-year old daughter being forced to get the COVID vaccine. I personally feel many vaccines are safe, effective, and a blessing to us all. But the COVID vaccine is still in the experimental stages and both efficacy and safety remain a moving target.

Freedom is important to me and should be to you as well. There was a time, not too long ago, when brave people truly put their lives where their hearts and mouths were, many died. I am not that brave, would not risk my life, nor do I want to do the hard work our forefathers did to gain the freedoms we have today. Democracy is the child of freedom and important in its own right.

The most fundamental tool for maintaining democracy is free speech, and we should be most careful about what we allow to be censored. With most things, it is easy to become lackadaisical and take for granted that which has been around a while, but this is not something we should risk by these attitudes. We must protect democracy and its tools at all costs or we could very well face a return to servitude and the need for brave people to risk their lives again. During previous social unrest in the United States, freedom of speech was never censored, not much, and the press was wholly independent. Neither of these two things are true during our COVID pandemic.

For example, at no time during the last century, perhaps the entire history of the United States, have the words of an elected president been censored. Until President Trump was censored and had his accounts terminated by large tech companies. Many people hate Trump enough to find this justifiable but that is what allows this tragedy of censorship to happen. There have also been prominent scientists, doctors, and commentators that got censored. We cannot allow this to happen, not for a pandemic that causes fear, not about the differences of opinion on fighting a war in Viet Nam or the middle east, and not about anything else, lest we lose this critical freedom of free speech. The mainstream media has not remained independent, and has erroneously reported facts that later turned out to be untrue. This is a clear red flag and bad things happen when the media becomes politicized and opines more than being engaged in independent, investigative journalism.

We assume freedom is all encompassing, black and white, all or nothing. That is not true, we do put limits on freedom. Nearly all people agree that freedom should not extend to people who murder or torture or commit genocide, and are willing to outlaw it. In other words, we take away the freedom to commit such obviously heinous acts and because we want these types of behavior to be outlawed, freedom must be gray as opposed to black and white. Most importantly, we have given ourselves the right to determine where lines get drawn within the gray. This is a process that occurs over generations and requires education, correct information, debate and thought. Without these things the general populace can be swayed with incorrect or inaccurate information and lines may get drawn in the wrong place.

The 2020 COVID pandemic is forcing average citizens to consider deep issues and draw conclusions too quickly. Our leadership has not been strong enough to slow down the decision-making process and allow educated and thoughtful legislation based upon facts that may not become apparent for years. The world governments are suddenly, and in concert, acting like medieval rulers or dictators, with absolute power over societies. This should be concerning to each individual because it will be the masses that either allow this to go on or take measures to stop it.

The questions of whether or not the vaccine protects an individual from contracting the virus or completely stops the spread of the virus are already answered by the press and the politicians, despite not having accurate information and the virus being a moving target.  On the other hand, other important questions get very little public consideration and are swept under the carpet, such as whether or not the vaccines harm people and if there are better options available. These questions are critical to determining whether or not we should move personal health freedoms into the gray zone.

Despite widespread belief and statements by the mass media and politicians that these questions are answered, they are not and cannot be answered because we do not have enough information. We are learning as we go and it is becoming more clear as each day goes by that much of what we thought was going to unfold either has not or is markedly different than expected. For example, we now know that the vaccine offers some protection but far less than we hoped. Fully vaccinated people still get infected with COVID, moreover the vaccines do not prevent the spread of the virus. It will take many months or years to understand exactly what level of protection was achieved by the vaccinations. We also know the vaccines do harm some people, there is a medical risk to taking the COVID vaccines and it will take years to know how many people were harmed and to what degree. The question of better options is widely disputed but still unclear. Many treatments have evolved and much has been discovered over the past two years. Anecdotally it looks promising that multiple other options are available and effective. Some are controversial and some are not but the broadest example is that ventilators should not have been the primary treatment for severe COVID and that other means are far more effective.

We have allowed fear to guide our decisions. We have dismissed considered thought and careful decision making. We have allowed this same fear to turn our heads away from the censorship and bias that is occurring right now and eroding the freedoms we have fought thousands of years to achieve. Bravery and courageous actions happen differently today than they did thousands of years, or even one hundred years ago. We do not need to put our physical bodies in harm’s way, but we do need the courage to think carefully and act and vote accordingly. Our system is not perfect but it works. We do have the power to determine the outcome of this important turning point in our history, which while the virus caused its necessity is not the main issue at hand. The main issue at hand is freedom, including the right to public debate. It is important to think very carefully before allowing authorities to resort to censorship. And such drastic measures require transparency and careful review of facts that will take time to become clear.

Important Letter to Myself

Never underestimate the power of speaking to yourself, reminding yourself of what you want and what is important to you. I use a To Do list app and remind myself weekly. Here is my “Important Letter to Myself” and you can use it as a template to make your own.
I have decided that it is time to be the man I started out being and live the life I want to live. For too many years I have allowed laziness, depression, addiction, and general apathy to direct and guide my life and lifestyle, that is no longer going to happen. I now demand that my life get dictated by my true desire and beliefs. They are:
    1.   I am in control of my destiny. There is much I can decide about my life.
    2.   I will not let fear, anxiety, or unhealthy thoughts rule my life, I will convert them to healthy thoughts and staying present and happy.
    3.   I want to live to be at least 98 years of age, always in physical and mental fitness and living a high and good quality of life.
    4.   I want to be financially secure and wealthy enough to enjoy all the things I want without stress by no later than December 2022.
These things can be achieved by me. The key components to implement immediately are:
      • Stay present and immediately change unhealthy thinking.
      • Moderate drinking of alcohol.
      • Reduce and maintain a weight below 20% body fat.
      • Eat foods that are good for me and do not eat foods that are bad for me.
      • Exercise daily and in the best way for my body and health.
There it is, that is what I want and the strange thoughts, lazy habits, odd emotional states, and crazy human behaviors that stop me from living this way are no longer part of my life.

Unwavering Faith and Extraordinary Effort

We all make goals, some happen and some don’t. There is a way to make every goal happen but it takes unwavering faith and extraordinary effort.

These are the only two decisions one must make to succeed. Goals are easy but most people give up too soon or when their timeframe extends beyond what they had planned or wished. But one can NEVER GIVE UP! And it will not happen all on its own, you must apply effort, extraordinary effort. These are lessons taught by Hal Elrod, a wonderful human being and I encourage you to check out his website – https://halelrod.com/

President John Doe

The president watched as Linda’s expression changed to something he had never seen before. Her look wasn’t playful or sinister; it seemed defiant and daring. Then she parted her legs, and he noticed she wasn’t wearing any stockings.

First Year

“Are you shitting me?” President Doe asked. “They seriously want my fucking birth certificate?” He paused. “And these are humans you are talking about, adult human beings?”

“Yes, sir,” Linda replied.

“And you are saying the public cares about this?” President Doe’s face was red with anger as he paced around his desk in the oval office.

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